Dear Friends,
It seems impossible that up until a week ago, Chance was creating YouTube videos about healing and "going around the world" to help others: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=eradicancer4gbm
His left temporal brain tumor was causing deficits on his right side. He lost his right peripheral vision, numbness was growing from his right foot up, from his right hand up. He went to church on Sunday, struggling to walk, with his beautiful fiancee and future mother-in-law. He was always happy to be in his church community.
On Monday, he had a terrific headache. Then Tuesday about 1PM he collapsed when his fiancee and I were helping him into bed. He never awoke or spoke again. We do not believe he had any pain after the headache on Monday. Yesterday about 1PM he breathed his last breath.
Through the process, Chance found great healing in many, many ways. Even when he was making his transition, he was talking to his daughter (who happens to be in Paris) in her dreams, and four other people have told me he visited them.
Thank you to this community, and Stephen especially, for the loving support in helping each other through what I've decided is the worst possible diagnosis. When I contacted Stephen early on seeking his help, I told him I was going to kiss every frog, talk to everyone who would talk to me, so that if I had to face this resolution, I would have no regrets.
I have no regrets. I have great peace that my son has just begun the healing work he came to do. For the first time in 20 months, last night I put my head on my pillow with no concern whatsoever for my son. The great struggle has ended. The great collaboration has just begun.
Jude,
ReplyDeleteNeedless to say I and everyone else here are truly sorry to hear this. It's shocking how quickly it happened. I'm listening to his last youtube video as I type this.
What's even more amazing to me is both his and your inspiring attitude and faith that you both managed to keep in spite of his devastating diagnosis. Listening to his words right now it almost leaves me speechless. Chance is a teacher in his own way, and I can say with certainty I have a lesson or two to learn from him.
And I know your influence was a big part of this Jude, so thank you both. You really deserve some peace now after this long struggle. I'm sure we'll continue to stay in touch.
Jude
ReplyDeleteI am deeply saddened by this news. Everyone here is family and one person’s success is enjoyed by all of us and the loss of someone is mourned by all of us. I have not watched the YouTube videos by Chance but will do so this evening. Wishing you and your family peace.
Stephen and Michael, Thank you. I have so much peace. I am so proud of Chance and I am so proud of me! Yes, Stephen, you're right. We're in this together for however long it takes.
ReplyDeletemy thoughts and prayers are with you and chance tonight. I had to do a double take when I saw this post tonight since I never expected this after just watching his YouTube video. He inspired me through that video, and I'm sure others. Glad you both are in peace now.
ReplyDeleteHi Jude i am convince that God love you and Chance , thats why he is near God and Jesus, now he will take care of you and whoever he loved. You must go on and make forward what he would like in Gods will.
ReplyDeleteMelinda
Jude,unbearably sad to read the news about Chance ... The kingdom of heaven, as we say here, those who are already in heaven, who is already good!
ReplyDeleteTania.
This hit me like a punch in a stomach.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to read this and wish you and your family every good thing.
With all my heart, I thank you for the blessings. I know from the past the shock and sadness felt at the passing of a BTC family member. As for us, our whole experience can be summed up in two words: "Fear not." In the end there is only love and love never dies.
ReplyDeleteOh... I am very sad. Jude, I've followed your posts and enjoyed Chance's videos. I feel like Ive lost a friend :( I'm glad to hear that you sound well. Thank you both for contributing so much to our little gbm community. Hugs to you. Love, Annie
ReplyDeleteDearest Jude, I can't believe this. My heart breaks for you and all those that you and Chance have touched by your spirit and generosity. I feel like we lost a member of our family. With all my heart I hope you find peace since Chance is now without worry or pain.
ReplyDeleteMuch love, Antoinette
So Sorry Jude, it's with unbelievable sadness that I read your post. Please know you and Chance are in our hearts.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Linda
That's a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing it with us. All my love, Steve x
ReplyDeleteJude I am so sorry. I can only echo what's been said by everyone. You and Chance are both an inspiration to me, your courage is incredible. Thank you for thinking of us at such a difficult time. Love never dies x
ReplyDeleteHi Jude,
ReplyDeleteMy name is Geena and I knew Chance well when we both worked at Robert Half and then recruited him to Five9, his last job. I am so heartbroken to hear this. Him and I stay connected right until June, 2016 and he never once mentioned how serious his illness was. Chance was so dedicated professionally and was tremendously loved and respected by all who knew him. This hit me hard as he was an amazing human being. Please let me know about memorial services. I can be reached at geena.quillin@five9.com. Thank you.
Dear Jude, my heart goes out to you. I am truly sorry to read this. Chance's journey with GBM and the way you both have shown so much courage and light in the face of this nightmare is a huge inspiration to me. I wish you and your family peace for now and in the times ahead.
ReplyDeleteAll my love, Alison
Dear Jude,
ReplyDeleteSuch beautiful posts....thank you for sharing your wisdom and your journey. May you continue to be in peace and surrounded by so much love. As you said, love is what we have and what we will always have...the only eternal and constant in a universe of change. Many blessings to you and to your family. Your son Chance continues to be a light.
Warmly,
Kathryn
Dear Jude,
ReplyDeleteSo very sorry to hear of your family's loss. Chance's and your efforts and healing messages have been such an inspiration to us and encourage us to keep trying no matter what. We greatly thank you both for that.
With dearest sympathies,
Mike B.
Friends, I am so grateful for this site!!! Not only for our community, but for one of Chance's co-workers finding me here. Awesome. And, Mike, you hit the nail perfectly! Here's the thing, we don't know why some survive and some don't. I'll never understand why when Chance was young and strong and determined, nothing seemed to slow the process. So I've come to see it was his time, not his condition. Maybe the most important thing I've learned through this is you cannot stand in someone's wellness and illness at the same time. You have to pick one and give it everything you've got - no matter what the doctors say, no matter what the MRIs say - just go for it! As long as there are survivors, there is reason for hope. I'm hugging you all and I'm going to be right here, looking over your shoulder because I don't want to miss your good news!
ReplyDeleteBlessings and condolences to you. Thank you for sharing your journey and inspiration. "There is only love and love never dies."
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